Post by Finlip on Nov 8, 2005 22:06:54 GMT 6
Football matches can end in a draw if both teams score the same number of goals. But, two people can't have exactly the same height or weight. In mathematics we have discrete and continuous numbers. Even if both people are 44 kg, one could be 44.000001 and the other 43.999999. So one of them will be heavier anyway.
I used to say that I can have many friends tied for first place. But, now I realize that it isn't possible. My best friend has to be just one person. It may be possible that even my best friend isn't as good as someone else's ordinary friends. But, my best friend would be better than every other friend that I have. Like everything else, my best friend can change. If Tom is my best friend today, Dick could replace him tomorrow, and Harry could do the same on the day after. I wouldn't have to be my best friend's best friend. But I would think I would be one of their better friends, if not the best.
The criteria for best friend is what I am going to try and decide as I type this. I would look into things like how comfortable I'm speaking with the person, how happy I am being with the person, how much I want to be with the person, how much I think about the person, which of my personal matters I can share with the person, and so on.
In the past I have said to one of my friends that she is my best friend. I was first joking. Then very soon, she became close to me. She was finally at least tied for first place. But now, no ties can be acceptable. There can be one and only one best friend. I thought about all my friends since childhood. I thought about friends who I was happy being with. I thought about friends I want to be with. I thought about the amount of time I spend thinking about my friends.
Many of my best friends came out to be people whom I'd met on cyberspace. I am yet to see many of them. In addition, there were also friends from school, college, and my neighbourhood. However, in the end the winner was that friend I just mentioned. I met her on the internet and we have met on four occasions after that. We have only been walking and talking. But then, we have also sent messages and have had telephone conversations. She couldn't have been my best friend all along. But she is at the moment. And I can't promise that it will last for ever. It all depends on how things go from here.
She has also been calling me her best friend. But she has surely not analysed all her other friends, the way I did. So when she does that I may no longer be her best friend. There's nothing special about me and she may be fed up of me soon. Despite everything else, I'm happy that she calls me her best friend and I'm happy that at least for the moment she is also my best friend.
If some of my friends who have been out of sight come arround again, this may change.
But then again, if we keep on being with touch, and now if she does things that make me feel even better, I might be even closer and it is possible that she will remain my best friend for the rest of my life.
This is all about my best friend. Tell us about yours.
I wrote this about a month ago and posted it in another forum. Let me add a few sentences to it now. It does seem like she may remain my best friend for ever. The next few messages I get from her will be crucial.
I used to say that I can have many friends tied for first place. But, now I realize that it isn't possible. My best friend has to be just one person. It may be possible that even my best friend isn't as good as someone else's ordinary friends. But, my best friend would be better than every other friend that I have. Like everything else, my best friend can change. If Tom is my best friend today, Dick could replace him tomorrow, and Harry could do the same on the day after. I wouldn't have to be my best friend's best friend. But I would think I would be one of their better friends, if not the best.
The criteria for best friend is what I am going to try and decide as I type this. I would look into things like how comfortable I'm speaking with the person, how happy I am being with the person, how much I want to be with the person, how much I think about the person, which of my personal matters I can share with the person, and so on.
In the past I have said to one of my friends that she is my best friend. I was first joking. Then very soon, she became close to me. She was finally at least tied for first place. But now, no ties can be acceptable. There can be one and only one best friend. I thought about all my friends since childhood. I thought about friends who I was happy being with. I thought about friends I want to be with. I thought about the amount of time I spend thinking about my friends.
Many of my best friends came out to be people whom I'd met on cyberspace. I am yet to see many of them. In addition, there were also friends from school, college, and my neighbourhood. However, in the end the winner was that friend I just mentioned. I met her on the internet and we have met on four occasions after that. We have only been walking and talking. But then, we have also sent messages and have had telephone conversations. She couldn't have been my best friend all along. But she is at the moment. And I can't promise that it will last for ever. It all depends on how things go from here.
She has also been calling me her best friend. But she has surely not analysed all her other friends, the way I did. So when she does that I may no longer be her best friend. There's nothing special about me and she may be fed up of me soon. Despite everything else, I'm happy that she calls me her best friend and I'm happy that at least for the moment she is also my best friend.
If some of my friends who have been out of sight come arround again, this may change.
But then again, if we keep on being with touch, and now if she does things that make me feel even better, I might be even closer and it is possible that she will remain my best friend for the rest of my life.
This is all about my best friend. Tell us about yours.
I wrote this about a month ago and posted it in another forum. Let me add a few sentences to it now. It does seem like she may remain my best friend for ever. The next few messages I get from her will be crucial.